How To Find Alcohol And Drug Treatment Programs Online

alcohol treatmentAlcohol treatment and drug counseling, as many addicts know, is a real process of self-help that can be very difficult without proper support from friends and family.  In fact, there are many addicts who view the road to recovery as almost impossible without someone having their back when they are in recovery.  Also, there is a view from leading alcohol and drug counselors that addicts should not wait until they are very ill or at rock bottom because true recovery is a gradual process.

Good reasons for professional treatment

Another aspect of alcohol and drug treatment is linked to practical tips on how to make the move to get treated by a professional, and when it comes to addiction treatment Salt Lake City is one of the best places to find a professional program.

A professional treatment program should include many of the following:

- Ways and means to successfully stop drinking

- How to set goals and prepare for life as a former addict

- Tips on how to get clean and sober safely and effectively

- How to get help, support and treatment

In general, professional alcohol and drug counselors say that no matter how series the addiction, there is tried and true solutions to getting off the booze or drug of choice.  There are also numerous costs associated with professional treatments. Counselors can help a client and family members sort out the best health insurance and payment options for treatment.

Evaluating treatment options for addicts

While the top first step — for anyone seriously addicted to alcohol or drugs — is to simply stop drinking or using; most addicts know this first step is often a bridge too far when they do not have family and friends supporting their decision to enter into treatment.  In turn, the support circle often reminds addicts that if they quit there will be numerous positive benefits that will kick in right away.  For example, most interpersonal relationships improve after someone who abuses alcohol or drugs gets treatment.

Moreover, a former addict will tell you that they feel much better both physically and mentally; while also having more energy for their both their personal relationships and jobs or careers.

Overall, it has never been easy for anyone with a serious alcohol or drug addiction to simply quit on their own.  The solution is to research the many treatment centers – that are featured online with highly informed websites – that offer free consultation and details about their unique alcohol and drug treatment programs.

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Dynamics

Marriage remains a mystery. What makes it work for the long-term?  What makes some marriages passionate?  What keeps couples in love—even madly in love—decades after they exchanged their vows? What is the fundamental difference between couples who experience marital happiness and those who do not?marriage

In the recent New York Times article “What Brain Scans Can Tell Us About Marriage,” Tara Parker-Pope reveals how questions such as these fascinate and drive academic researchers, such as a post-doctoral researcher at UCSB, Bianca Acevedo. Dr. Acevedo and others are intrigued by these questions and the “inner workings” of long-term happy marriages. Utilizing a plethora of lab tests (including brain scans and relationship tests), researchers tried to more accurately and tangibly identify what is behind these lasting, loving, and happy marriages.

In one study, Dr. Acevedo, who specifically studies the neuroscience of relationships, conducted a phone survey of 274 men and women in long-term, committed relationships and who considered themselves still madly in love. She collected data related to marital happiness and passionate love and expected to find only a small percentage of couples still deeply in love. Dr. Acevedo was extremely surprised to find nearly 40 percent registering high on the romance scale! Couples in the other 60 percent also had high levels of relationship satisfaction and considered themselves still very much in love—just not as acutely as the first group.

In another study, 17 men and women (married an average of 21 years) agreed to undergo a brain scan so that researchers could try to identify how long-term, romantic relationships affect the brain. When shown a picture of their spouse (as opposed to a friend), parts of the brain related to romantic love were activated—similar to a couple falling in love. What was especially interesting is that in these older couples with longer-term marriages, something additional was identified in the brain scan. For these couples who had weathered life and shared significant experiences together, a unique part of the brain associated with deep attachment and security was activated as well! So, in addition to the euphoric feelings related to romantic love, these couples also experienced feelings of security and calm in the relationship.

So you ask: What did these couples have in common to keep the romance alive all those years? While there is still uncertainty and debate surrounding what specifically fosters and preserves marital happiness, romance, and longevity, these couples did in fact share certain things in common. Researchers discovered the following facts about these couples:

  • They remained active and engaged in one another’s lives.
  • They were committed to working on and growing the marriage. (They recognized and understood that marriage is work and doesn’t just “go” on its own!)
  • They were intentional about doing new and different activities together

As a marriage therapist, what I get out of this article is simple: There are tangible ways to work toward a more satisfying and engaged marriage—one in which you still feel in love! Despite what you may think (and the growing pessimism of the surrounding times and culture), you can be madly in love with your spouse…even decades into your marriage. It can happen. It does exist. And (wink, wink) there are some benefits that you can only enjoy decades into your marriage. Pretty cool stuff.

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What Happens In Marriage Counseling

What happens in marriage counseling?

We meet once a week, and sessions are 50 minutes in length. In our first session together, shutterstock_106006154I will learn as much as possible about your marriage or relationship, including how you met, how you got to where you are now, and anything else you think is important for me to know. I sometimes use the next two sessions to meet individually with each partner, although this is not always necessary.

I try to improve a couple’s communication so that they can move from “gridlock” to healthy dialogue about their key issues. In later sessions we talk about handling conflict, rebuilding the friendship (if necessary), bringing romance back, and finally, discussing long-term goals and dreams.

Does couples counseling work?

Yes, couple counseling works very well. In an article published in The Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, clients of 526 marriage counselors were surveyed, and 91.2% of the clients said they were satisfied with the amount of help they received.

You and your partner have learned many things during your lives. If you want to, you can also learn new ways of being with your partner, and there is an excellent chance that couples counseling will help you to get the changes you want in your relationship.

I’m not sure if we need marriage counseling or not. How can we know for certain?

My belief is that if you think you might need counseling, you probably do! Marriage counseling is under-utilized. Marriage counselors should be consulted sooner, rather than later! Studies show that the average couple doesn’t seek professional help until six to seven years have passed since the relationship started to go downhill. Sometimes a couple is on the verge of divorce before they begin working with me, and they always wish that they had started counseling sooner.

I offer a free 30-minute consultation which allows a couple to “kick the tires” and find out if they feel comfortable working with me.

My husband would prefer to see a male marriage counselor. But wouldn’t a male marriage counselor take my husband’s side, and/or not understand how a woman feels?

Marriage counselors avoid taking sides because it is counterproductive to long-term counseling success. That said, if I feel one partner needs to make a change in a particular area, I’ll say so.

I spent a year as a volunteer counselor at a domestic violence shelter working almost exclusively with women. That experience plus my time working with couples makes me confident that I am capable of seeing things empathetically from a female perspective.

Why is counseling better than reading a self-help book, such as the one by Dr. Phil?

Relationship counseling books may help a few people, but they rarely motivate people to do the things necessary to achieve long-lasting improvements. Authors don’t know the details of your relationship, so they can only present general suggestions in a “one size fits all” manner. Another problem is that a person may incorrectly interpret things from a book in a way that favors his or her own position. On the other hand, marriage counselors are unbiased and insure that neither partner can claim an unfair advantage over the other.

Will marriage counseling make us agree on everything?

That’s unlikely! Up to 70% of couple conflict, even in stable couples, is about “perpetual” issues. My goal in dealing with perpetual problems is not to decide who gets their way and who doesn’t, but instead to avoid gridlock by establishing healthy dialogue about the issue, in which each partner communicates acceptance of the other’s position.

Amazingly, in an advanced (or “emotionally intelligent”) couple, these perpetual issues can become a source of amusement! It’s safe to say that there is no relationship without at least one perpetual problem.

How long does couple counseling take?

I usually ask a couple to commit to 12 sessions. The first few sessions should be weekly, and after that sessions can be either weekly or bi-weekly. Couples are always free to come back on an “as needed” basis.

What hours do you work?

I work from 12 noon until 8 PM Monday to Thursday, and 10 AM to 6 PM on Friday.

Do you offer in-home counseling?

Yes, counseling in your home is available in certain situations, such as high-profile individuals or people with physical disabilities. There is an extra charge for in-home sessions.

Is it ever too late to save a marriage?

No, it’s never too late. Marriage counselors agree that if both husband and wife are open to change and willing to do some work, love can be rekindled and a happy and satisfying marriage can be restored.

We have been fighting so much that I feel physically ill. Is that crazy?

No, not at all. Marriage counselors will tell you that a fractured relationship can cause significant stress in an individual, and that stress can contribute to a variety of physical ailments that can have serious physical effects. Recent studies also show that when a fight begins with a “harsh startup” (referring to how the problem is initially presented by one partner to the other) adrenaline and cortisone levels rise significantly, just as they do in the “fight or flight” response.

My husband (or wife) refuses to go to a marriage counselor. Is there any benefit in me going alone?

Yes. When one partner makes some positive changes and shares what has been learned, the other partner frequently becomes motivated to make his/her own positive changes. Hopefully the reluctant partner then becomes willing to attend counseling. Read more about my recent experiences on this matter in my blog post Marriage Counseling for One.

Does infidelity mean the marriage is over?

No, infidelity doesn’t have to mean the end of the marriage. Many couples have survived infidelity. It’s traumatic, it hurts terribly, but you can get through it with professional help. I have found that the crisis brought on by a unfaithful spouse is frequently the trigger for the couple to seek the counseling they have needed for a long time.

Are you the kind of marriage counselor who just repeats everything I say?

No. I listen to what my clients say and then either ask questions in order to probe deeper or point out other things that may need to be addressed.

Do you offer pre-marital counseling?

Yes. Some couples come voluntarily for pre-marital counseling, while others are required to do so by their church. I try to make pre-marital counseling a fun experience while at the same time looking for any potential trouble spots that should be addressed sooner rather than later.

Do you offer divorce counseling?

I hardly ever recommend that a couple divorce. However, if both husband and wife are agreed that they want to divorce, and both wish to work with a counselor so that they can terminate their marriage as amicably as possible, then yes, I am happy to work with them.

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Remember When You First Met

Remember how it was when you first met? When you were together, every moment was pure joy. When the two of you were apart, you couldn’t wait to be together again. Romance was in full bloom. When you were feeling blue, your partner could usually make things brighter.shutterstock_113824207

But now, the excitement is gone. You don’t feel connected anymore. You might feel distant. You may feel that your partner no longer truly “hears” you or knows how you really feel about things. Your emotional needs are not being met. You notice that the two of you don’t spend quality time together. And since your relationship is so important to you, that fact that it’s not going well is affecting other areas of your life.

Your relationship may even be in crisis. You may no longer trust your partner. An affair may have just been revealed, or an internet pornography addiction discovered. You may even be thinking about divorce.

You’ve probably tried hard to work things out. You may have been having ups and downs in your relationship. Or worse, you and your partner may be trapped in a repeating cycle of fighting and making up – but each fight pushes you a little further apart.

Consider counseling. Couple counseling works, and has helped thousands of couples like you and your partner. In an article published in The Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, clients of 526 couple counselors were surveyed, and 91.2% of the clients said they were satisfied with the amount of help they received.

Meet your counselor. I am a California registered Marriage & Family Therapist Intern. I have a master’s degree in Counseling from Saint Mary’s College of California, and my master’s thesis topic was couple counseling. I’m a member of the California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists and the American Association of Marriage & Family Therapists.

I specialize in working with couples. Many counselors are reluctant to work with couples and prefer to work only with individuals. But I love working with couples and I have helped many of them.

Some men are reluctant to enter counseling. Many men don’t like to talk about their feelings. Also, it’s not uncommon for a man to fear that a female counselor will take the woman’s side. While couple counselors strive to avoid taking sides, many men feel more comfortable with a male counselor.

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Why People Wear Jewelry

jewelry wearPeople love to find ways on how they can stand out among the crowd. Some are aware and some are not but everyone has his or her own fashion statement. It does not matter whether you are a farmer or the wife of an executive tycoon. The art of expressing oneself is innate in everyone. Some people love singing, while others love dancing, others like to draw and others love to paint. The list goes on when it comes to ways to express. Even in this modern-day busy world, the essence of projecting an image still exists.

They say that first impressions last and for that, people do their best each day to dress the way they want to be looked at. They mix and match clothing to create an image that can please themselves and those around them. Along with different types of clothing, most people wear accessories to enhance their overall getup. For some, wearing different ornaments can also help them express who they are. It can be noticed that people usually love wearing trinkets made with precious metals and stones as they define class and high value. The history of wearing jewelry has deep roots and can be traced back to ancient times. A good example would be people in Egypt where pharaohs and other high officials wear lavish jewelries to show their position in the society. Women from small families used baked clay beads and turn them into necklaces and bracelets since precious gems and metals are only for deities.

Whether people are using high quality paparazzi jewelry or homemade emblems, it can be inferred that charms and other types of accessories are avenues for people to express their personalities and tastes in unspoken ways. As they say, clothes make the man. The way people dress themselves reflects the kind of person they want to show the world. Jewelry, clothing, fashion and other forms of art are part of human nature that clearly shows how creative people can be.

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Healthy Hair With Olive Oil

Olive oil is known to be a healthy option for many things even for hair treatment. It can be used to make hair healthier and shiny. There are many benefits to the natural use of olive oil. Since olive oil is a natural moisturizer it serves as a good treatment for dandruff. When massaged into the scalp it will moisturize the scalp and make the appearance of flakes highly less noticeable. Use the treatment as often as needed until the flakes begin to fade.
Olive oil can also tame the wildest of frizzy hair. Using olive oil on the ends of the hair will moisturize and strengthen the hair. This works great in the winter when hair tends to be wilder and more frizzy. It will also work with those that flat iron their hair. It will add shine to hair to dull hair and make the head shine again. The oil is also great at softening hair and making it more manageable.
When you are using olive oil in place of a conditioner it only needs to be used once a week. If hair is really damaged the treatment can be done twice a week but definitely not daily.

 

When it comes to healthy hair there is no better natural substitute for olive oil for skin is Juniper Desert. Nature has had millions of years to develop oils and all kinds of natural substances for use with our bodies, take the time to use something high quality.

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