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A Compromising Situation

By Jay Slupesky
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Communication

Compromising Sometimes the best solution to a disagreement between partners is to agree on a compromise. Each person gives a little on their position and the couple “meets in the middle.”

How easily can you and your spouse discuss a difficult problem and reach a solution that is acceptable to both of you?  The ability to reach a compromise is good tool to have in your marriage toolbox.

Here are some pointers on compromising:

  • Figure out what aspects of the problem the two of you agree on. Where is there agreement? Begin by focusing on that.
  • Tell each other what your goals are in this situation.  Each person should clearly understand the other person’s goals.
  • Now the part that you don’t agree about. Once again, be sure you understand what the other person’s position is, and why it so important to them.
  • Figure out where there is some flexibility in both positions.
  • Take turns making suggested compromises with some give-and-take until an agreement is reached.

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This entry was posted on Thursday, August 21st, 2008 at 6:24 pm and is filed under Communication.

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