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I gave u the 411 abt emo affairs in a post lst Oct.
FYI emo affairs R strng friendshps btw ppl who R attrctd to 1 another, but who dnt have sex.
4 xampl, a mn & a wmn who mEt ofn 4 lunch & tlk bout dEp issuz (like probs w/ their m8s).
L8ly Ive sEn a nu twist: emo affairs that R done mostly by txt msgs!
Of corz, U can B busted if ur m8 looks at the cell fone bill & sees there R way 2 mnE txt msgs!
We may LOL at this, but plz member that emo affairs R FUBAR b/c ur cheatin on ur m8. 
U shd B spendin ur tym & emos on him or her, not NE1 else. 
B ur m8’s BFF!
C U l8r.
Tags: cheating, emotional affair
This entry was posted on Sunday, April 27th, 2008 at 7:10 am and is filed under Infidelity.
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April 28th, 2008 at 9:50 pm
Ha ha ROFL
May 13th, 2008 at 10:15 am
Hi Jay,
Love your creativity in this post!!! I’m thinking you must have teenager to have known all the abbreviations!!
Helene
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ps. I couldn’t agree more with your point!
May 13th, 2008 at 1:09 pm
Helene -
Well, they’re not teenagers anymore. The are ex-teens now, in their early 20s. But I did learn most of those abbreviations from them.
September 7th, 2010 at 6:24 pm
This hits home to me…my husband has a emotional affair with his friend he met while we were separated. I asked him to break it off almost 4 years ago and he says that they haven’t touched each other, I should trust him. But they spend time with each other and I’m not allowed to come, because he says my energy is bad. I don’t like the intimate relationship and they both don’t want that in their mix. He has admitted to flirting and that they have spoke at length about sex, us and many deep things but it is merely a friendship. I broke down a few weeks ago, I seen an email where she told him to get over the fact that they will not have anything other than a friendship, but she will not let go of the friendship. I feel I have perpetuated the relationship because of my fear. He refuses to end it because I am jealous he says…it is the principles he states. He told me about them and he thinks that is good enough. But I don’t think they should spend so much time together. He gave her a birthday present before he even gave me one. He treats her the way I’d like him to treat me, and he tells me to get over it! I’m trying, but it is hard.
Please know the history, we have been married for 22 years and have seen every thing a marriage could face. 10 years ago I had an affair with man I met at work, Sean and I were roommates and did not have very much contact with each other. I didn’t feel loved so I found love from the comforting arms of a good friend.
So now we’re here! Someone help me please!
A desperate wife!
December 5th, 2010 at 11:24 am
Hundreds of text messages to the same guy in a three week period. He’s an older married co-worker of my wife. I confronted her because he texted sexual innuendo. Of course she responded to those texts by mentioning that she was married. An argument ensued, I was deemed “just jealous” and “untrusting” of her. Of course this is all my fault for going through her phone. I explained that any guy who deliberately hits on her has no respect for our marriage and should not be a “friend” of hers. She agreed and I agreed to not snoop. That was two weeks ago.
I checked the cell phone records on the internet, on several days she works she continues to text fifteen or more times throughout the day, and more often than not, he texts her very early in the morning. I can’t talk to her about it without starting an argument. If I do, it always ends up being that I’m wrong, she’s right, and I don’t “trust” her.
I don’t think there is anything physical going on.
I admit that I do have a trust issue, because of an emotional affair she had a year ago for a week with an ex-bf. She texted, and talked to him for hours on end, sent e-mails through facebook, even changed her password for that week to make sure I wouldn’t find out. I did find out because her phone went off while we were sitting on the couch watching tv and I picked it up to shut off the sound and saw that it was an e-mail where ex-bf was declaring his undying love for her. She ended the EA, and I checked up to make sure.
I don’t know what to do.
I have tried to talk to her and have her put herself in my shoes. “would she like it if I had “friend” who said the things to me that her friend has said to her?”
I fear my only recourse now is to sit back and wait. He will text and talk, and eventually it will lead to lunches and whatever else.
Do I have any other options?
February 1st, 2011 at 8:47 am
I don’t like the intimate relationship and they both don’t want that in their mix. He has admitted to flirting and that they have spoke at length about sex, us and many deep things but it is merely a friendship. I broke down a few weeks ago, I seen an email where she told him to get over the fact that they will not have anything other than a friendship, but she will not let go of the friendship. I feel I have perpetuated the relationship because of my fear.