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Aug 16

Be Careful Who You Talk To

By Jay Slupesky
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If your marriage is in trouble, be careful about discussing the details with your friends. This may seem like surprising advice, since friends can be a good source of emotional support. Women especially tend to talk to friends about their relationships.

So why do I say to be careful about it? Because I’ve noticed that friends are too quick to recommend that you divorce your spouse. Here’s why:

  • Your friend is only hearing your side of the story. Yes, of course, you think your view of things is accurate and complete, but your spouse has a lot of important feelings and information to offer. This is why marriage counselors prefer to meet with both spouses.
  • Your friend is not impartial. They may view your spouse as a jerk or a jerkette. And they may be thinking that they will get more of your time if you leave your marriage. A marriage counselor, on the other hand, is impartial.
  • Your friend may be just looking for a quick fix. They may be a “problem solver” who thinks a quick solution is the best one. But repairing the damage to your marriage may not be quick and easy.

So trust your marriage to a licensed therapist who will hear from both of you, who is impartial, and who is trained in marriage therapy.

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This entry was posted on Saturday, August 16th, 2008 at 1:40 pm and is filed under Marriage Therapist's Tips.

One Response to “Be Careful Who You Talk To”

  1. AlexM Says:
    August 18th, 2008 at 11:30 am

    Your blog is interesting!

    Keep up the good work!

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