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I’m pretty sure I’ve written about this before, but that’s OK because (1) it’s interesting and (2) it might influence someone in a good way. According to a study to be published in the September issue of the Journal of Health and Social Behavior, people who had been divorced or widowed had more illness than married people. The singles suffered 20 percent more chronic health conditions, such as heart disease, diabetes or cancer. The study was done on 9000 adults between the ages of 51 and 61.
To be sure, this study does not prove that divorce causes people to be sicker. It does show that there is a correlation between the two, though. The cause could be something else, for example, maybe people who don’t take very good care of themselves physically don’t take very care of their relationships either.
If I can draw that analogy out a little further: when you’re seriously sick, you should see a doctor. When you relationships is seriously in trouble, you should see a marriage therapist.
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This entry was posted on Sunday, August 9th, 2009 at 8:20 pm and is filed under About Marriage Therapy.
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August 26th, 2009 at 2:24 pm
Hi Jay,
yes that is an interesting study. And if I may take your analogy even further than that: when you find your-self constantly getting sick, may be you should look into preventative care, alternative therapies, or a good health and nutrition regimen, and if you see that you are constantly struggling with your relationships, may be it is time to invest in learning more about love and relationships through some books or tapes or invest into a relationship coach :).
November 4th, 2009 at 8:54 am
I must say I am not totally surprised at this study.
Certainly the stress that a relationship breakup, or marriage breakdown causes can have a big effect on peoples health.
I hope couples realise there are now many resources available to them online, and offline, so break up and divorce does not have to be the answer.
I hope people see this blog and think about their alternative options.
There is good marriage helpout there.
November 20th, 2009 at 2:51 am
Interesting study. But not a surprise for me too. I think the divorce should be the final step, when there is no other. And it’s better to think twice befor getting married, in order not to face the problem of divorce and the stress caused by it.
February 22nd, 2010 at 10:01 pm
Interesting that you are all through the same things. But great that you have have found a way to talk and deal with the issues that you are all going through. I think that often when we talk about things we discover ways of solving problem that we would not otherwise know exist.