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Feb 05

Marriage Therapist’s Tip #2: Build Up Appreciation and Fondness for Your Spouse

By Jay Slupesky
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Happy Couple After Marriage CounselingMarriage Therapist’s Tip# 2 is to build up appreciation and fondness for your spouse. Now, I’m sure that when you and your spouse were dating and for the first few years of your marriage, you had nothing but fondness and admiration for one another. That may be a distant memory for some of you now. In fact, in an unhappy marriage the spouses even feel some contempt for one another. Let me ask you a few questions as a quick check on how you feel about your spouse. Can you name three things that you admire about him/her?  When you are apart, do you often think fondly of him/her? When your spouse comes into the room, are you glad to see him/her?

So now you’re asking, what can I do to increase the fondness and admiration in my marriage? It’s easy! Tell your spouse what you admire about him/her, and do it often! If you want to get started on this tonight, think of one thing you appreciate your spouse and then tell them about it. I bet you will get a good response, and it will be more likely that he/she will be more responsive to you.

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, February 5th, 2008 at 6:01 pm and is filed under Marriage Therapist's Tips.

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