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Many couples who have been married for some years know that it’s important to have a regular Date Night. This is a time when you get away from the kids and the television and do something romantic, like seeing a movie and a going to a candlelight dinner. Some couples who make the quality of their relationship a high priority will have a Date Night on a regular basis - such as every Saturday night.
Well, believe it or not, scientists have been studying the Date Night phenomenon with experiments, laboratory studies, and (I kid you not) brain-scan data! And they have found out something very important: you need variety and new experiences in your Date Nights. You don’t want to be going to the same restaurant over and over again. You need to try new things such as a new restaurant, maybe a new hobby that interests the two of you, or going the amusement park.
The experiments have shown that new experiences will activate the brain’s “reward” system of dopamine and norepinephrine in the same manner as in the early phases of a love affair. You are actually altering your brain chemistry in a way that allows you to feel a more romantic love.
So if your relationship is feeling routine - if the butterflies have flown the coop - try doing some new things together on a regular basis!
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This entry was posted on Tuesday, February 12th, 2008 at 1:46 pm and is filed under Marriage Therapist's Tips.
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