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You can improve your relationship by becoming an expert on your spouse’s life, because happily married couples are intimately familiar with each other’s lives. What do I mean by intimately familiar? I mean you know whether or not he likes pickles on his hamburger. You know why her boss is being a jerk lately. You know who he’s going to vote for next November. You know when her mother’s birthday is and what kind of birthday cake she would like.
Why should know your spouse that well? Because couples who are that into each other are able to survive marital stresses such as the birth of the first child, the death of a parent, or a serious illness.
It’s pretty easy, really, to become an expert on your spouse’s life. In marriage counseling, I recommend that couples spend at least 20 minutes every evening just talking to each other and finding out what happened during the day, finding out what she is excited about, finding out what he is stressed about.
So: do you think you know your partner well? Here’s a pop quiz: do you know who his or her best friends are? If not, make it a point to find out tonight. Your spouse will appreciate your interest.
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This entry was posted on Saturday, February 2nd, 2008 at 8:41 pm and is filed under Marriage Therapist's Tips.
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