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Mar 16

Premarital Counseling as Preventative Maintenance

By Jay Slupesky
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weddingcouple.jpgYou know about preventative maintainence for your car, right?  You take it in for factory service every 15,000 miles or so, and you have your oil changed every 3000 miles.  Right?  You do, right?  Good.  Your car be happy and will take you wherever you want to go for a long, long time.

What about preventative maintenance for your marriage?  How about doing it before you get married?  That’s what we call premarital counseling, and it’s becoming more and more popular. In fact, many churches require a couple to attend premarital counseling before they can be married in the church.

How does premarital counseling work?  Typically, we meet for 6 sessions. We spend a lot of time talking about communication styles. We also look at expectations, goals, and shared dreams.  It’s usually a lot of fun.

Of course, it’s possible that some glaring issue could arise during premarital counseling - something that the couple hadn’t realized was a problem. That sounds bad - but isn’t it better to find out about it before you tie the knot?  Yes it is.  On the other hand, you may learn in premarital counseling that the two of you are made for each other!

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This entry was posted on Sunday, March 16th, 2008 at 6:22 pm and is filed under About Marriage Therapy.

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