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Aug 10

Test Your Conflict Resolution Ability

By Jay Slupesky
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Communication

Here is a little quiz about how well you and your spouse (or partner) resolve your conflicts. There is no scoring, but hopefully you will find it thought-provoking.

By the way: time spent with a skill marriage counselor can greatly improve your conflict resolution ability!

Arm Wrestling

  1. Do you sometimes not say things during arguments because you don’t want to hurt my spouse’s feelings? Or can you comfortably (and respectfully) state your position?
  2. Do arguments over little things turn into big arguments? Or are they resolved quickly?
  3. Do the two of you have different opinions about the best way to handle your disagreements? Or do you have a reliable method to reach resolution?
  4. Do you usually end up feeling guilty after an argument?
  5. Do you do too much to avoid arguments? Or are arguments something that you don’t need to fear?
  6. Do you tend to give in too soon in order to end an argument with your spouse? Or are you able to proceed comfortably?
  7. Does your spouse not take your side seriously? Or does he/she respect your opinion?
  8. Can you not tell your spouse your feelings because of his/her possible reaction?
  9. Does your spouse not understand your point of view during disagreements? Hopefully he/she takes the time to see things from your point of view.
  10. Do some of your disagreements never get resolved? This can lead to ongoing contempt and resentment.

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This entry was posted on Sunday, August 10th, 2008 at 12:07 pm and is filed under Communication.

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