East Bay Couples Counseling

Helping you to restore the love you once had.

Office in Walnut Creek, California CA

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Map & Directions from San Ramon to the Walnut Creek Office

Google 200 Camino Ramon, San Ramon, CA 94583
10 mi (about 12 mins)
1. Head northwest on Camino Ramon toward Norris Canyon Rd 0.6 mi
2. Turn left at Crow Canyon Rd 0.2 mi
3. Merge onto I-680 N via the ramp to Sacramento 8.9 mi
4. Exit onto S Main St toward Walnut Creek 0.2 mi
5. Turn right toward Creekside Dr 92 ft
6. Turn right at Creekside Dr 217 ft
7. Take the first left onto Quail Ct 39 ft
Google East Bay Couples Counseling, 33 Quail Ct, Suite 300, Walnut Creek, CA 94596
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Obviously, I'm seen a lot of people in troubled marriages, both in San Ramon and in other parts of the East Bay. Sometimes a marriage is on the brink because of a major event that occurred - such as the revelation of infidelity. On the other hand, there are marriages of "quiet desperation" where no major event has occurred, yet the couple is equally unhappy. These unhappy marriages can go on for many years.

Some researchers estimate that up to 60% of divorces these days come at the end of low-conflict marriages, meaning that there have not been addiction problems, physical or mental abuse, repeated infidelity or other high-conflict issues. The 60% is obviously a majority, meaning that more than half of unhappy marriages are of the "quiet desperation" variety.

So where do such marriages go wrong?

By definition, there is no huge, destructive event. Instead, there is a slow but steady decline toward cohabiting strangerdom - the couple becomes strangers who live together, and they stop caring about one another, stop being excited about each other, and stop wanting to do things together to improve their relationship.

The hum-drum daily routine of life in San Ramon takes over and couples lose touch with one other. They lose the fun, the joy, the loving kindness that was so present in their early days together. Some people blame television, the internet, or video games of taking interest away from a spouse, and certainly that is true in some cases.

So what to do? Clearly, in therapy, we need to get to the bottom of whatever outside interests are interfering with a couple. We also need to find out if communication is good, or if some important issues are not being discussed. Some resentments could be resulting in passive/agressive behaviors. All of this comes out in good marriage therapy.